Recently, your mother and I were searching for an answer on Google. Halfway through entering the question, Google returned a list of the most popular searches in the world. Perched at the top of the list was “How to keep him interested.”
It startled me. I scanned several of the countless articles about how to be sexy and sexual, when to bring him a beer versus a sandwich, and the ways to make him feel smart and superior.
And I got angry.
Little One, it is not, has never been, and never will be your job to “keep him interested.”
Little One, your only task is to know deeply in your soul—in that unshakeable place that isn’t rattled by rejection and loss and ego—that you are worthy of interest. (If you can remember that everyone else is worthy of interest also, the battle of your life will be mostly won. But that is a letter for another day.)
If you can trust your worth in this way, you will be attractive in the most important sense of the word: you will attract a boy who is both capable of interest and who wants to spend his one life investing all of his interest in you.
Little One, I want to tell you about the boy who doesn’t need to be keptinterested, because he knows you are interesting:
I don’t care if he puts his elbows on the dinner table—as long as he puts his eyes on the way your nose scrunches when you smile. And then can’t stop looking.
I don’t care if he can’t play a bit of golf with me—as long as he can play with the children you give him and revel in all the glorious and frustrating ways they are just like you.
I don’t care if he doesn’t follow his wallet—as long as he follows his heart and it always leads him back to you.
I don’t care if he is strong—as long as he gives you the space to exercise the strength that is in your heart.
I couldn’t care less how he votes—as long as he wakes up every morning and daily elects you to a place of honor in your home and a place of reverence in his heart.
I don’t care about the color of his skin—as long as he paints the canvas of your lives with brushstrokes of patience, and sacrifice, and vulnerability, and tenderness.
I don’t care if he was raised in this religion or that religion or no religion—as long as he was raised to value the sacred and to know every moment of life, and every moment of life with you, is deeply sacred.
In the end, Little One, if you stumble across a man like that and he and I have nothing else in common, we will have the most important thing in common:
Because in the end, Little One, the only thing you should have to do to “keep him interested” is to be you.
Your eternally interested guy,
This post is, of course, dedicated to my daughter, my Cutie-Pie. But I also want to dedicate it beyond her.
I wrote it for my wife, who has courageously held on to her sense of worth and has always held me accountable to being that kind of “boy.”
I wrote it for every grown woman I have met inside and outside of my therapy office—the women who have never known this voice of a Daddy.
And I wrote it for the generation of boys-becoming-men who need to be reminded of what is really important—my little girl finding a loving, lifelong companion is dependent upon at least one of you figuring this out. I’m praying for you.
— Dr. Kelly Flanagan
Happy International Women’s Day
Water. Crucial for flushing out toxins, delivering nutrients, and keeps skin looking fresh. Hydrate with: Water, Peaches, Green Tea, Cucumbers
Vitamin A and Beta-Carotene. Helps skin heal and rebuild tissue, and is an anti-aging tool to prevents wrinkles. Eat: Broccoli, Papaya, Carrots
Vitamin B Complex. Gives your skin a glow by boosting blood circulation and helps your skin receive oxygen. Eat: Beans, Sweet Potatoes, Bananas, etc.
Vitamin C: Stimulates the production of collagen in your skin, making it elastic, youthful and firm. Eat: Grapefruit, Kiwi, Papaya
Vitamin E: Reduces the appearance of age spots, wrinkles, stretch marks.Eat: Greens, Nuts, Tropical fruits
Fatty Acids: Protects against sun damage, allows water and nutrients into the skin while keeping toxins out, and wards off inflammation dark. Eat: Beets, fish, almonds, avocado
Pectin: Prevent wrinkles and blemishes, keeps skin conditioned and toned, essential in driving acne away for clear and beautiful skin. Eat: Kiwi, Apples, Peaches, Peas
Selenium: Improves the skin at a cellular level, helps regenerate vitamins E and C, protects against sun damage, helps heal injuries, and flaky skin. Eat: Brazil Nuts, Whole Wheat, Brown Rice
Lycopene: Protects against agents that clogged pores and create breakouts, and helps reduce inflammation. Eat: Tomatoes
Natural Alpha Hydroxyl Acids: Refreshes and brightens skin. Eat: Apples
Other Antioxidants: Fights against free radicals and helps rejuvenate the skin. Eat: Cantaloupe, Plums, Blueberries
To be just giving like that. Forget douche bags like Justin Bieber and TV personalities, people like Dobri Dobrev are my role models!
It’s one thing to know that you’re going into a challenging season. You get prepared for it. You get mentally ready. But what about the difficulties that we don’t see coming? The unexpected crisis that catches us off-guard? Sometimes, it can seem so overwhelming that it almost knocks the wind right out of us.
The Scripture says that we shouldn’t be surprised by fiery trials. That’s because the forces of darkness would not be fighting against you if they didn’t know that God has something amazing in your future! Sometimes, those unexpected difficulties are just a sign that you’re on the right track. It’s always darkest just before the dawn appears. The enemy always fights the hardest when you are closest to your breakthrough. The key is to stay the course and keep fighting the good fight of faith. Keep your joy and keep declaring God’s Word over your future. God has promised that you will overcome every obstacle. You will defeat every enemy, and right now, I declare that you will fulfill your destiny in Jesus’ name!
Have you ever tried something and got the results you wanted and then tried the same thing again and got different results? This happened to Moses in the Bible. They needed water and God told Moses to strike the rock. He struck the rock and water flowed out freely. Another time they needed water again, and God told Moses, “Speak to the rock.” Do you know what Moses did? He went over and struck the rock. He thought, “Hey, it worked last time. It’ll work this time.” But it didn’t. God had a different plan.
The point is that we have to stay open and make adjustments to stay in tune with God’s plan. You can do the same thing the same way you did last time and get different results. It may not be something major, but like Moses, maybe it’s just something small. Sometimes a small tweak, a small adjustment can make a major difference in the outcome.
Today, make sure you aren’t doing things just because it’s the way you always did it before. Instead, listen to the voice of the Holy Spirit of God inside. Follow His leading and stay in sync with the wonderful plan He has for you!
6 Exercises for Leaner Inner Thighs…VIDEO
They look like exercises to help get pregnant…..
Yes I WAS thinking that but I was behaving myself. LOL